“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.” ~ Anonymous
As a general rule, optimists seem to have the luck of the Devil, as the saying goes, meaning that most people think that the only reason someone is an optimist is because things always go that person’s way. Negative people, on the other hand, always seem to have a real reason to be negative (psychic vampires aside), be it a moody boss, a backstabbing colleague, financial trouble, illness, relationship problems or something else seemingly outside their control.
What most of us don’t realise is this: you have total control over your life, well being and happiness. This doesn’t mean that you can control the free will of others, but that you can control your reactions to circumstances, events and people. If your boss is permanently moody, ignore it. If it can’t be ignored, find a way to cope with it or find a new job. You don’t have to tolerate it! If someone stabs you in the back, take it as a lesson learnt, remember not to trust that person again and move on. Do not dwell on it or blame yourself for not seeing it coming. Aint hindsight grand? If you have financial woes, brainstorm ways in which to earn more money, actively seek out opportunities and believe that you will find them – your positive attitude will draw positive people to you and one of them may just have the offer of a lifetime for you. If you or someone you love is ill, research the various treatments/cures and look at some alternatives – nature contains a cure for pretty much anything. If it’s a case where the illness has progressed too far to cure, adjust your attitude to remind yourself that you or your loved one is on the way to a better place. This will enable you to make your/their last days happier and more relaxed, too. If you have relationship troubles, sit down and talk it out with the person, perhaps with the help of relationship counselling if you feel it’s necessary and the other person agrees. If nothing positive is achieved by this, it might be best to part ways and move on.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
Thankfully, human beings are adaptable creatures, perfectly capable of changing. This means that, while it might be hard to be positive at first (especially if you’ve been in a negative mind frame for a long time), this new way of thinking will eventually become a habit, and we all know how hard those are to break…
Decide to be happy and take control of your life today by:
- Analysing bad experiences or situations to see what can be learnt from them, or to find the good that can come of them.
- Consciously finding something to be thankful for each day.
- Focussing on only the good things in life.
- Being kind to yourself – no one is perfect or gets it right all the time, so don’t bash yourself for ‘being human’.
- Being confident in your ultimate success.
- Visualising and anticipating a world in which you already have what you want.
- Believing that nothing can stand in the way of achieving your goals.
- Ignoring the comments of anyone who has negative things to say about your new way of thinking (or anything else, for that matter).
- Surrounding yourself with positive people.
If you found this article useful, diarise 1 July 2013, when Think Positive, Part 4: The Real Law of Attraction will be published.